not ok

What’s going on? I get emails all the time asking me if it’s ok to go along with something that someone is trying to convince you to do that you know is not right.

There’s a very short answer to this dilemma, no.

What you’re asking me is: Is it ok to lower your standards to do something that you know is wrong? Instead of lowering your standards to go along with something that someone wants you to do, try to get them to raise theirs and you’ll both be better off…

perk up your place

It’s getting colder and you might be spending more time inside than outside…so this could also be a good time to perk up your place!

Check out  for lots of good, easy and affordable DIY ideas to update things you already have, you’ll be inspired…

don’t let it get you down

Mom, I have a friend who always complains about everything even things that are very little things. I want to be a good friend and listen, but I don’t think that it does any good. I’m tired of listening to constant complaining, what should I do?

I don’t think that there is anything you can do. Have you ever asked him why he complains so much? It sounds like he just has a very pessimistic personality and you probably can’t change it. If his constant complaining is starting to affect you by putting you in a bad mood maybe it’s time to stop spending time with him.

forget about food

Dear Mom, I have a friend who is a vegan and she is driving me crazy. She talks about what she eats constantly and tells me that everything that I eat is terrible. I would like to be her friend but I don’t want to be a vegan or listen to her tell me about the food she eats. Is there any way that we can stay friends?

Sure, avoid eating together,never  talk about food and don’t discuss diets, if you have other things in common that you both enjoy do those things together.

best apples ever

I’m still in denial, but I know it’s Fall…and this recipe from The Kitchn makes it easier to accept it! Smells great and tastes even better, enjoy…


All of the sweet and caramely goodness of a traditional apple crisp, stuffed and baked with the best crumble topping. Top it off with vanilla ice cream and caramel sauce and smile!


  • 8 apples (I used fuji apples)
  • 4 tablespoons butter
  • ⅓ cup brown sugar
  • ½ teaspoon cinnamon

crumble topping

  • ½ cup flour
  • ¼ cup oats
  • ⅓ cup brown sugar
  • ¼ cup sugar
  • ¼ teaspoon salt
  • ½ teaspoon cinnamon
  • 4 tablespoons butter, chilled and cut into cubes



  1. Preheat oven to 400 degrees.
  2. First, prepare the crumble topping. In a medium bowl whisk together flour, oats, brown sugar, sugar, salt, and cinnamon. Cut in the butter with a pastry knife, or two forks, or with your hands until mixture is crumbly. Set aside.
  3. Peel and chop 4 of the apples. Add chopped apples, butter, brown sugar, and cinnamon to a medium sauce pan and sauté over medium heat for 8-10 minutes or until apples are tender. Remove from heat.
  4. Chop the tops off of the remaining 4 apples and use a spoon to scoop out the flesh. Discard the flesh. You don’t need to get every little bit out, just enough to make a “bowl” for the filling.
  5. Fill scooped-out apples with apple filling from the sauce pan. Top with a generous amount of crumble topping.
  6. Place stuffed apples on a baking sheet and bake for 10-15 minutes until crumble topping is crispy. Serve warm and top with ice cream and caramel sauce if you want to go big… Enjoy!

seriously, waxed paper

If you have a problem it’s possible that waxed paper is your answer! Who knew?

  • Rub a sheet on the teeth of a zipper to discourage snags.
  • Roll it up and insert in the neck of a bottle, and use as an impromptu funnel. The wax keeps the paper stiff.
  • Rub it on bathroom and kitchen faucets to both buff the metal, and make them more resistant to future water spots.
  • Layer the tops of kitchen cabinets and the top of the fridge with waxed paper, and replace it every so often instead of dusting that hard-to-dust spot.
  • If you have a door that stubbornly sticks, rub the edges to keep it from jamming as much.
  • Keep wooden salad bowls and cutting boards in good shape by giving them an extra layer of wax protection.
  • Protect the fridge from spills by covering the shelves. It makes it much easier to clean.
  • Lost your wine cork after opening a bottle? Make an plug out of a wad of paper, and stick it right in there.
  • Cover bowls and plates when you use the microwave to prevent splatter, better than plastic wrap.
  • If your shower curtain has trouble moving over its rods without squeaking or catching, a light rub with wax paper will help it move smoother.
  • Use it as drawer liner in your dresser.
  • Before you close up paint cans, add a sheet over the top of the paint to keep skin from forming.
  • Swipe non-stick appliances , to give it a little more non-stickiness.
  • Wrap up paint brushes to keep them from drying out in between coats.
  • If you have drafty windows in winter, use it to plug up holes. The wax wards off precipitation, it’s pretty waterproof.
  • Wrap up any delicate fabrics when you store them. The wax keeps out light and keeps colors from fading or turning yellow.
  • If you are out of kindling, wax paper makes a good fire starter.


Dear Ask Mom, I want to invite a few people over for dinner, but one of the people that I want to invite will probably ask if she can bring a guy that she just met. I don’t want him to come. What should I say? 

You have three choices: You could be nasty and say “Does it sound like I invited him”?! but you shouldn’t. Instead you could say “I was hoping we could just do some cooking and catch up on stuff and he would probably be bored”. Or you could just say “no, not this time”. You choose…

still looking

Dear Mom- I am looking for a job and I’m frustrated, when people ask what I’m doing I don’t want to say that I’m still looking for a job. What should I say?

You don’t have to give a long depressing answer about all the jobs that you’ve applied for and never got a response. Instead tell anyone who asks and seems to want an answer that you’re looking for a job and ask if they might know someone. It never hurts to network whenever and wherever possible.

an apple a day

one of the best things you can do for yourself is eat an apple everyday…

15 Delicious Apples for Eating Out of Hand

Golden Delicious
Granny Smith