too much Thanksgiving

I can’t get my assistant out of bed and I ate so much that I can’t think today!! We plan on making Thanksgiving last all weekend, hope Thanksgiving lasts all weekend for you, too…

be thankful

Some time I should start following my own advice…too busy to write, going crazy-I’ve been cooking for hours :( and my assistant is nowhere to be found…another perfect Thanksgiving…enjoy


My only good advice for Thanksgiving and most holidays: if you’re making dinner and everyone is coming over, do as much as you can today, so you can enjoy the holiday, too and you’re not so exhausted and stressed out that everyone has a good time except you…

your eyes are bigger than your stomach

Mom, I go crazy and eat everything during the holidays and then I hate myself and get so depressed. I don’t want it to happen this year. What can I do to make sure it doesn’t happen?

There are tricks you can play on yourself so that you won’t overeat and if all else fails, puff out your cheeks, put a pillow in your shirt and take a selfie making yourself look really fat and look at it before you eat the extra piece of pie or second helping of everything…

These tips work, also:

Plan ahead. You know that you’re going to have special foods so cut down on what you’re eating for breakfast and lunch if you’re having a big dinner and try to drink lots of water. Eat high fiber fruits and vegetables, don’t starve yourself or you’ll eat even more.

Your eyes and mind tell you that you’re hungry when you see food that you love. When you look at it try to figure out if you’re hungry or it just looks so good that you want to eat it!

Take half as much as you want to and eat slowly, then wait 20 minutes and see if you’re really hungry for more before you take seconds.


coping strategies

Dear mom, I hate the holidays. I have to spend too much time with my family and they all ask me questions that I don’t have answers to. How can I get through the holidays without going crazy?

You’re not alone hating the holidays, lots of people do. Relatives who love you and don’t mean to, can make you feel terrible. There are a couple of strategies for dealing with family and holidays: deflection usually works- change the subject, provocation is nastier, but it works, also- annoy the person by asking a question that they don’t want to talk about instead of answer their question, and there is always the answer that shuts everyone up, “I am so happy and I like my life just the way it is right now” or just smile a lot.

Luckily the holidays only happen once a year…good luck, you can always stuff your mouth full of food and walk away whenever someone asks a question that you don’t want to answer because you can’t talk with your mouthful.

perfect pumpkin pancakes

I don’t love pumpkin lattes, pumpkin pies or pumpkin bread but I could eat these pumpkin pancakes for breakfast, lunch and dinner…partly because they’re delicious and partly because you can eat them with butter, powdered sugar and whipped cream (three of my favorite things!)- amazing

Pumpkin Pie Pancakes

Makes 10 pancakes
2 cups (9 ounces) all-purpose flour
1 1/2 teaspoons baking powder
1/2 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon kosher salt
3 tablespoons packed brown sugar
1 1/2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
1/4 teaspoon ground ginger
1/4 teaspoon freshly grated nutmeg
1 3/4 cups buttermilk, preferably whole
1 cup canned pumpkin puree (I prefer Libby)
2 large eggs, separated
1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
Canola oil (or another other neutral oil), for cooking
Powdered sugar, maple syrup, butter, and whipped cream, for serving

Combine flour, baking powder, baking soda, salt, brown sugar, and spices in a medium mixing bowl and whisk to combine.

Combine buttermilk, pumpkin puree, egg yolks, and vanilla in a blender and process until well combined. Fold the liquid mixture into the dry ingredients until almost combined, but with a few clumps of flour still remaining. Stir the reserved egg whites into the mixture until just combined. Allow the batter to rest for about 10 minutes while preheating the skillet.

Preheat a large cast iron skillet or griddle on medium-high heat and add about a tablespoon of canola oil. When the oil is very hot and shimmery, add 1/4 cup portions of batter to the pan, pressing it out with the bottom of the measuring cup to help it spread out a bit. Lower the heat to medium and cook until the bottoms are golden brown and a bit crispy, 1 to 2 minutes, then flip and continue cooking until done, 2 to 2 1/2 minutes more. Re-heat the griddle before cooking additional batches of pancakes.

Serve the pumpkin pie pancakes with a heavy dusting of powdered sugar, a drizzle of maple syrup, a slap of butter, and a pile of whipped cream.

another great recipe from thekitchn

not perfect

I have a few words of advice that may solve a lot of problems…hope it helps

It’s crazy to think that everything you do has to be perfect…in the real world being a perfectionist is not as important as getting things done.

bring it on

It’s almost that time, so before you get all caught up in the chaos here are 5 really good tips from

I know this is a lot of drinking, but my food is never that good and no one notices!

1. Bring on the bubbles!
Nothing says ‘celebration’ like a bubbly apéritif. Welcome each guest with a festive Prosecco cocktail and set the tone.

2. Start small.
Small bites and cocktails go hand in hand – but it’s never a good idea to overindulge before the main event. Keep pre-dinner nibbles light. Don’t let everyone get full before dinner.

3. Red or white?
Get both! A great Pinot Grigio is always in style and Chianti is perfect for fall.

Plan on enough for at least three glasses per guest – plus a few ‘just in case’ bottles.

4. End on a sparkly note.
A Sparkling Rosé is perfect on its own – even better paired with decadent desserts and rich, juicy berries.

5. Relax and enjoy!
Party planning can leave the best of us frazzled – but if you’re not having fun, your guests won’t either! Take a deep breath and remember: a party doesn’t have to be ‘perfect’ to be perfect.

For perfect wine pairings and recipes visit

also, happy birthday to the one and only- you know who you are!!!!!!

the not so friendly skies

Dear Ask Mom, I am going to be flying a few times in the near future and I’m dreading it for a lot of reasons, but the worst one is people kicking my seat. What can I say to someone who kicks the back of my seat without starting a huge fight?

Nicely, but directly say, “Maybe you don’t realize it but you’re kicking my seat really hard, please stop, thanks” and turn around. Don’t just turn around and shoot them a dirty look or mumble under your breath, just say it and it’s over.

what are you thinking?

Dear Ask Mom- I was invited to a wedding with my boyfriend, but he won’t be able to go. I want to go with my friend, but she is also the grooms ex-girlfriend. I think they are friends now so can I ask if I can bring her instead of my boyfriend?

REALLY!!  NO, if she wasn’t invited no one wants her there!