get ready…

my amazing assistant and I wish everyone a happy, healthy and best new year…

more wisdom

more wise words:

Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

wise words

This is always a good time of the year for words of wisdom instead of advice:

A good head and a good heart are always a formidable combination.

Nelson Mandela

 

eat, drink and be full

Ho Ho Stuffed…sorry, I just can’t write about food today!

 

happy to all

ho ho merry

ho ho no!

Dear Ask Mom, I’m so stressed out and the worse part is I have to pretend that I’m not. What can I do?

You can still fall apart when you’re alone if you need to. You may not be able to complain to other people because they have their own problems or because you have no one to talk to. Try watching a sad movie and cry or sit down and write down everything that’s wrong. Looking at your problems in writing may help you come up with some solutions. Most of the time you can say “this too shall pass”…

Ask Mom is evolving into an advice blog…I’m ok with that, but I won’t give up my Friday recipes/cooking/eating…stuff!

wait patiently

Dear Mom, I have a good friend that’s a mess. She has gained weight and cares more about her boyfriend than herself. I think she’s going to be sorry, but I don’t want to give her advice and act like I’m judging her. Is there a right way to give her my opinion?

Unless you want to end the friendship and she doesn’t own a mirror the answer is no. She already knows everything that you’re going to tell her. If you want to keep the friendship, be quite. She probably knows that she needs to lose weight and start putting herself first, but if you say it to her you’re the bad guy…don’t say anything. Offer to work out with her, share some low calorie recipes and be there when she’s ready to talk about it and starts the conversation.

stay calm be kind

Mom- I was at a party and saw someone that I was friends with a few years ago and she dumped me. She stopped returning my phone calls and if I ran into her she was very cold. I didn’t really care that much except I feel like I was owed an explanation. So when I ran into her at a party I walked away and avoided her and started to talk to someone else. The person that I started talking to found out that I used her to avoid the other person and now she’s mad at me. Should I apologize to her? Did I do something wrong?

Maybe, but this is a little too soap operaish for me. It’s ok to say that you’re sorry for using her, but what was the real harm? Sounds like you are all a little too emotional.

so sweet

I am pretty much running on sugar these days, which I don’t recommend, but if you are, too, you’ll love these dessert recipes:

http://www.thekitchn.com/10-desserts-to-know-by-heart-recipes-from-the-kitchn-195132

enjoy…enjoy…enjoy…enjoy…enjoy…enjoy…enjoy…enjoy…enjoy…enjoy

going uncrazy

This year I have gotten so so many emails from people saying, “I’m going crazy” and that includes me.

I have no idea how to help you from going crazy. A temporary fix for our condition includes doing at least one very small act of kindness each day. Hold the door for a few people next time you go to the store, tell the cashier that her earrings are pretty or say thank you very much for your help on the phone…

It really works because while you’re thinking about what you’re going to do for your next act of kindness you’re distracted and not thinking about how you’re going crazy, and at the same time you’re making someone else feel good…